I'm Not a Ho, And I'm Not Ashamed

I write romance and erotica. Writing takes skill and creativity. It is a profession like any other profession. I'm working to make it a career and it is currentlya job (one to which I have to work really hard to get accepted anywhere. Never mind marketing, business, and all that great stuff that goes with it).I'm sometimes reluctant to say "I write romance and erotica," because I know someone is going to assume because of that I'm a ho. I just go sleeping with any and everyone and then write about it.I went out on a date Thursday (one I was reluctant to go on in the first place. Lesson - listen to the internal voice). The guy said "Oh well that's not a talent anyone can write about an experience." WTF???? Then he went on to explain his point and devalidate my rebuttles. And in that insulted me alot more than his original comment. (Some would be shocked to know that this does not even qualify as my worst date...not even close). Thank God we only had tea. I knew better than to have dinner with him. The date would have lasted too long. Not just two days later a guy asks me "Soo you have alot of sex and experiences so you can write?" What really pissed me off was the guy was a writer. He writes mystery.I asked "Does anyone ever ask if you if you solve a bunch of cases and catch a bunch of murders...writing mystery and all."Again he defeanded his position and the difference...what the hell. (At this point I was exhausted, twice in three days. I got off the phone. Cause even though he "realized" the difference he never apologize for his rude statement)I'm always reluctant to admit what I write because I know some people will mistake my FICTION writing for my lifestyle. Though I doubt mystery writers are bombarded with STUPID questions of whether they solve mysteries for a living. I would be willing to bet the sci-fi writers aren't question as to whether they have traveled to galaxies far far away or are building a space ship in their backyard...experiences and all. Hmmm was Rawlings questioned about the magic school she attended...you know inspiration for Harry Potter. Hmm, and natuarally Stephen king was a demonic clown which is why he was able to write It.So I realize it's probably wishful thinking on some peoples part, Oh she writes erotica...easy lay. But dayum to then voice it out loud "Oh you write erotica, so you're having alot of sex?" Hell I know prostitutes that get treated with better class and respect. (This is not to say that prostitutes don't deserve respect...every human does.)And NO this is not some subtle message to say I should stop writing erotica. I love it. I love turning on my music letting my creative mind flow. I love coming up with new and different plots, different scenes, different worlds. I love thinking outside of the box and seeing those words come to life. And I wouldn't give that up for the world.When I started writing this blog I was going to go into more personal detail, defeanding my innocence, but then I realized I don't have to. Not for assholes out there anyway. Those who know me or take the time to know the answer and truly know who I am. It's just a shame people don't realize that my decision and passion for writing erotica (FICTION) is not an autobiography or memoirs of my life or a "review" of sex I've had.So for those of you stupid enough to question it, let me tell you NOW "You won't get any. I'm not sleeping with you, nor am I a HO!"And guess what "I WRITE EROTICA AND I'M NOT ASHAMED!!! I'M DAMN PROUD AND IT IS A TALENT. IT'S CALLED CREATIVITY!!!"P.S. Before one comments on my web address www.myspace.com/pornwriter the first five choices I wanted were taken. And I do realize that because I write scenes that are sometimes explicit people will define that as porn. And guess what I DON'T CARE!For those of you who want a definition of erotica and romance I'm copying and pasting directly from Gwyneth Bolton's blog (she quoted another source if you want to know that source go to her blog). Keep in mind I write EROTIC ROMANCE.Porn: stories written for the express purpose of causing sexual titillation. Plot, character development, and romance are NOT primary to these stories. They are designed to sexually arouse the reader and nothing else.""Erotica: stories written about the sexual journey of the characters and how this impacts them as individuals. Emotion and character growth are important facets of a true erotic story. However, erotica is NOT designed to show the development of a romantic relationship, although it's not prohibited if the author chooses to explore romance. Happily Ever Afters are NOT an intrinsic part of erotica, though they can be included.""Erotic Romance: stories written about the development of a romantic relationship through sexual interaction. The sex is an inherent part of the story, character growth, and relationship development, and couldn't be removed without damaging the storyline. Happily Ever After is a REQUIREMENT to be an erotic romance.""Sexy Romance: stories written about the development of a romantic relationship that just happen to have more explicit sex. The sex is not an inherent part of the story, character growth, or relationship development, and it could easily be removed or 'toned down' without damaging the storyline. Happily Ever After is a REQUIREMENT as this is basically a standard romance with hotter sex."