The Laziness of Men

How do you spend your third date? What's the date number that you end up "chilling" or doing a "movie night"?(Before I begin on my rant it is not pertaining to any date I've had recently. It's based off of a conversation a friend of mine and I had a while ago).Before I begin my rant I realize that the actual dating/courtship process is expensive. Dinner and a movie is NOT what it used to be. That's why my first date is always a coffee house or a appetizers. 1. It doesn't break the bank for a man that doesn't know me enough to spend money 2. We can both make a quick and easy get away. I mean how long does it take to drink coffee. You don't have to wait until the end of the meal.Now if you decide on a second date, well you've decided that maybe she is worth a movie, or something. Movies are expensive now adays.A couple of weeks ago, I had a day of KD. That's where I went to the movies and dinner...with myself. Why wait for someone to take you. I really enjoyed myself that day. (I actually met up with a friend afterwards, but still had to pay for my dinner).When I got home I stood in the mirror and tallied up my receipts for my date with myself. I added the movie, the slushie, dinner, drinks, and parking. When I totaled the evening date with myself, I looked myself in the mirror and in no uncertain terms indicated "All this money I spent, you know you putting out tonight right!"To get back on topic, it's expensive so I can see why folks want to do the "blockbuster night." When do you do it is the question. Have we gotten so lazy that after two nights out its time for someone to come over your house or vice versa. (Now obviously if you both are wanting sex by this point, then yeah you're too damn old to do it the backseat of a car...unless you doing the exhibitionist thing. You both have homes, so go over one of you guys place, and do it all throughout the house). I am protective of all things "me" related. Which means I'm not inviting a stranger over my house. And meeting someone twice does not make them your long lost buddy worthy of trusting them in your home. (Of course, I think their is some big espionage plot behind everything, so I maybe an exception to the rule. But I like being the exception).Having given an excuse for all possible reasons to "chill" at someone's place for the third date (hell or even second. After three you can stop counting), I think it is ultimately downright laziness for folks to do it and more importantly men to suggest it. So you're tired of spending money, be creative. All of you that write "loves walks in the park" in your online profiles certainly never suggest it. Think about it, when was the last time someone said "lets go walk in the park"....I'm still waiting.By the third date you should almost be finished with the "weeding." Anything you haven't asked, ask. Anything you don't know, find out. Is someone's house the best way to do it. (Not to mention if you're not planning on having sex, you're putting yourself in a very intimate situation.) The third date - the critical date, it shouldn't be the lazy date. You can do that on 4...if there is one.Did I mention that I live by a whole bunch of rules no one knows about. Hunh, maybe I need to work on that.P.S. I will work on it but not compromise my integrity. Yes Pornwriters have integrity too. (Or so I've been told).No going over someone's house on the third date is rule number 32586-c (for those of you who don't get the joke, no I don't actually have a tally count and numbering system. Nor do I have 32K rules.)